How to Apologize to Your Partner
If you're in a relationship, there is pretty much a guarantee that you will need to apologize at some point. While the whole idea of apologizing can be terrifying, it is essential for rebuilding broken trust and improving a strained relationship. Not sure how to say sorry? We've simplified the process for you!
How to Apologize
Step 1: Acknowledge your partner's hurt/anger
Example: I recognize that you feel upset...
Step 2: Apologize for what you said or did
Example: ...and I am so sorry that I am late for dinner.
Step 3: Briefly explain your own motives and perspective
Example: I thought I could still beat the traffic rush leaving later from work, but I was wrong.
Step 4: Apologize again
Example: Again, I am so sorry.
Final Example: "I recognize that you feel upset and I am so sorry that I am late for dinner. I thought I could still beat the traffic rush leaving later from work, but I was wrong. Again, I am so sorry."
How to Receive an Apology
Not only have we simplified the apologizing process for you, but we've also provided a simple guideline for receiving an apology.
Step 1: Listen
Step 2: Receive
Step 3: Believe
Step 4: Accept
After you've accepted an apology, next comes forgiveness. This process can take some time, but forgiveness precedes rebuilding trust, which is essential for a relationship to heal and grow. Remember: Individuals forgive, but couples build trust together.
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